forgiveness = Pujya Gurudev

Start living afresh with forgiveness

=Pt.ShriRam Sharma Acharya

"I dont know why my mind is so upset these days". Many people respond thus when asked about their well-being. They get angry with minor issues.
They feel wounded in their hearts. Though they do feign to laugh occasionally, but harbor burning volcanoes of anger and resentment within. Renowned psychologist Maurice Fredman observes that these symptoms are indications of some unhealed wounds of unforgiveness in the depths of their psyches. 

These hurts frequently manifest as pains, anxiety, tension and tears. Dr. J. D. Frank, a noted psychologist has experimented extensively on this subject. He has published the conclusions of his experiments in the book titled Hidden Mind  A Forgotten Chapter of Our Life. He mentions that there is a sort of a knot (wound) in the mind due to someones bad behavior, which we cannot forget and forgive. Incidents of negligence, scorn or insults by others bring pain to our hearts. 

This sometimes bursts out as anger and at other times the person suffers by feelings of helplessness and resentment. This pain and suffering breaks the mind into pieces. Japanese physician K. Kurokava explains that disturbances of mind gradually manifest as ailments of the body. His research shows that as the mental tensions increase and deepen they take the form of physical maladies. Recent findings of Kurokava and his associate Yoshiyuki Kago reveal that people who entertain and nourish negative traits like deception, jealousy, hatred, revenge, etc are prone to high blood pressure, hypertension and the resultant diseases of the heart and kidneys. 

The negative feelings not only fill the mind with suffering and restlessness but the body also gets burnt out. Research of Kurakova and Yoshiyuki show that those who readily forgive others are comparatively less prone to diseases related to blood pressure.
This means that if we follow the maxim of forgive and forget we can qualitatively change our lives for the better. If we could forgive the malicious behavior of others we can fill our lives with peace and happiness. Forgiveness is a sign of greatness and magnanimity.
Saint poet Rahim says - Ksama Badana Ko Cahiye, Chotana Ko Utpata | Ka Rahiman Hari Ko Ghatyo, Jo Bhrigu Mari Lata || Great are those who forgive. Those who create disturbances and exhibit bad behavior are small and will remain small. Greatness and Divinity of Lord Vishnu has not become less due to being kicked by Maharshi Bhrigu. Scientific research shows that forgiveness not only reveals our greatness but also positively affects our health. Research findings mention that if by chance a forgiving person gets hypertension related diseases these can be easily controlled and that forgiving or not forgiving is directly related to high blood pressure. 

This means that if you have a forgiving nature you will be rarely prone to high blood pressure. How to forgive? This is a difficult and unanswered question. If any rational person wants to forgive anybodys bad behavior the memories of hurt feelings make it well nigh impossible to do so. Modern psychologists are familiar with this mental state and they have devised techniques, which may be helpful in coming out of such mental grooves. First step in this sequence is Be honest towards oneself. 

Thanks GOD, Thanks Sadguru,

Shiv Sharma