Children -III ; Pujya Gurudev

After All, Why Don't Children Obey?

=Pt.ShriRam Sharma Acharya

They do not have enough time to spare for their children. In the other case the parents pay over attention to the children. All their just and unjust demands are fulfilled or they are kept under too much strict watch, which hinders their independent development. Prof. Huston says that in bringing up children, we should have the skill of a gardener. There should not be so much lack of care as not to provide for the needs necessary for growth nor should there be so much excessive caring as to deprive them from availing natural nourishment.

In order that children obey you and become less mischievous, it is necessary for the parents to bring about an attitudinal change in them in certain respects. 1. You should become a role model for the children. In front of children at least, you shouldnt do such things which you forbid children from doing. 2. Instead of meeting each and every just and unjust demand of the children, make them gradually aware of right and wrong. 3. Slowly and little by little teach and tell them daily about practical things such as how to behave with others, how to conduct themselves, simple manners and etiquettes etc. 4. Dont admonish them for each and every thing. Do not ever insult them in front of strangers. 5. On doing good work, appreciate and encourage them. 6. Give them opportunity to develop their potential talents.

An expert in the department of psychiatry of the Medical Education and Research, Chandigarh says that in order that the children obey you, it is necessary that you create in them faith towards you. Make them confident of your love for them. Dr. Savita Malhotra, another expert of this Institute, says that it is not proper to get scared, taking excessive mischief and naughtiness as some serious disease, but is is also not proper to be negligent towards it. If the energy of children spent in naughtiness and mischief can be diverted to creative activities it can bring about commendable improvement in their talent.

What is required in this regard is simply to be alert towards their proper care and keep encouraging them to utilize their vital energy in creative works. By doing so constantly, with patience, love and gentle behavior, children will give up mischief and turn to creative engagements, giving us no room for complaint.

Thanks GOD, Thanks Sadguru,

Shiv Sharma